The Smith’s are one of the most talented families in Hollywood. Will Smith is known as “Mr. July” for his annual blockbuster summer films. His wife, Jada Pinkett, is a singer and star of Hawthorne, a series on TNT. The Smith’s are raising three children. Willow is the youngest Smith child, and she loves to sing; in 2010 she produced a hit single “Whip My Hair.” Her brother Jaden has acted with his father in the Pursuit of Happyness (2006), and most recently was the star of his own movie, The Karate Kid, 2010. Their half brother, Trey Smith, plays football and is starting to produce music of his own. In this episode of Oprah, the Smith’s discuss their family plan, their trip of a lifetime to China, Jaden’s new movie, The Karate Kid, and Parenting 101.
The Smith’s family has a lot of great qualities and they are a great example of a “IMT Family”. In the Smith’s interview with Oprah Winfrey they cover some of the key concepts in IMT and how they apply them to everyday life. The interview shows IMT concepts in action, and in a family atmosphere. Here are some clips taken from the interview about these IMT concepts.
Marriage Business Plan:
“If you don’t have a goal, a purpose for your relationship and pretty much anything it’s like you don’t have a purpose, you don’t have a place you’re going, something that you want to accomplish, something you want to do, you can really get lost in the murk of your journey. There has to be a vision.” (Will Smith, 3 min.)
“I had my vision and he had his, so we had to join it…Once we started to see how the children were growing and, you know, Willow and Jaden and Trey were becoming their own beings we decided, ‘Okay, we want to make a family business. How do we incorporate all the talent that we have in this family?’ So that’s our vision—to create a place where their dreams can come true and their extended families’ dreams can come true as well.” (Jada, 3 min. 50 sec.)[/column] [/row]
Oprah: “How do you raise children who are grounded, gracious, who are giving, who are solid inside themselves when they have access to everything?” (Oprah, 9 min. 50 sec.)
I just want them [the kids] to live in service in greatness. I want them to live and create in a way that when people see it, people are inspired and people become better just by having contact with their excellence.” (Will Smith, 7 min., 35 sec.)
But they have to be able to define that for themselves, and that’s the thing, we can’t define that. We might have a vision for what we see but at the end of the day, Jayden has to have his own vision, Will has to have her own vision, and so does Trey. We are there to help inspire and facilitate their vision because in order to reach the type of excellence Will is talking about you have reach inside yourself to find that drive; nobody can put that drive in you. So you have to inspire the individual to find and focus the goal they want for themselves. (7 min., 55 sec.)[/column] [column]
“The things that parents understand is difficult because you can’t communicate the things” (Will 21 min 20 sec)
What happens is that your kids get to see you in your best light. How you interact with people, how you talk and how you deal with stress. Those things are where the lessons come from and then also allowing them to do it. (Will 21 min 42 sec)
“What I thought was great was that her beauty didn’t depend on her hair yes you know what I mean…… what she told me was that I wanna be free, mommy”(Jada 23min )[/column] [/row]
Punishment: With children
“We don’t believe in punishment per say. There are consequences to your actions. We believe in restriction. You can have as much freedom as you can handle—you can cut your hair, you can put stuff on your walls, you can have as much freedom as you can handle, and as soon as you do something that is detrimental to yourself and when you can’t be trusted with your freedom, then you have to be pulled back, but its not about punishing you about what you for what you did, but it’s about protecting you from what you could do to yourself.” (Will Smith, 29 min., 40 sec.)[/column] [column]
Interaction with Family:
As you look at the interaction that the parents have with their children, here are some questions you should think about:
How do the parents treat their children?
What is the family’s work ethic
How does the family spend their time?
How does the family deal with stress and trials?
What is different then most families?[/column] [/row]
Will: “Greatness lives on the edge of destruction. That’s where it is.”
Oprah: “So you have to almost come to the breaking point, is what you’re saying.”
Will: “The reason someone becomes great because they survive death. That’s what made you great-you were almost over, that was it. When the phoenix rises from the ashes.” (Will Smith, 38 min. 15 sec.)
He’s a different child. Look at how he’s walking. Chest up, confident. Because when you overcome that type of challenge – he did that. That comes form experience. (Jada Pinkett, 38 min.)[/column] [column]