Listen up. This is a pep talk. You’ve been moping around for weeks. All I hear is, “I wish it was the way it used to be… I wish I was still a first semester freshman… I wish I had a better job… I wish my close friends were still here this summer… If only I was luckier, I would have gotten that internship like my friends, so-and-so and what’s-his-name… They’ve gotten everything they’ve ever wanted. Every picture on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat shows how they’re living the life and I’m not… I have nobody to hang out with and there’s nothing to do around here… I have the same job I did last summer and all the people at work seem to do is gossip and complain…” With all of this spare time, you think that the only thing that you can do with your life is watch Netflix. Netflix, Netflix, Netflix. It’s as if vicariously living through people who are born in drug rings, the dark ages and biker gangs, you will magically make your social life better, become a more exciting and more experienced person.
Alright, kiddo. Let’s get a few things straight. You create your own destiny. You are in charge of your own fate. Nobody is stopping you from being happy and sociable and having all these great friends except for yourself. Don’t you have hundreds of friends on Facebook who are still in town this summer? And your good friends aren’t in town? So what? Take a road trip and visit them on the weekend. Don’t you remember? You’re the fun one out of the group who goes on spontaneous 14 hour road trips, who has done EVERYTHING. You’re the person that everyone looks to for advice. You’re the one who, despite all the adversity, still manages to come out on top.
Don’t you remember from the school year? You used to study all night for tests and papers waiting for the day to finally come when you could relax. Now look at you. You’ve got everything you’ve ever wanted and the only thing you can do is complain. You’ve always had people who have been there to help you like your family, teachers, mentors and friends. They want to know what’s going on in your life and are always looking out for you. You’ve got a web of encouragement on the other end of the phone.
Remember randomness doesn’t exist. You learned this lesson a few months ago and you still remember it. You saw that Stephen Curry was the NBA Superstar because he practiced harder and longer than anybody else even though he was always discounted by coaches for his size. Now look at him. Stephen Curry is a superstar. Now are you going to wait for a million dollars to fall from the sky right in front of you, or are you going to find a way to make it yourself by becoming the superstar that you are? Are you going to pursue your passions and follow your interests or are you going to add another percentage point to the 70% of the American population who hate their jobs? It is time to grow up and plan for the future, your bright future.
You are awesome. You always have been. You light up so many people’s lives that I’m stunned that they haven’t created a plaque for you yet. You are talented beyond belief. You have gifts to show the world. You have a presence about you that can make anyone smile. You are great the way you are and you don’t have to change anything except for your mindset. In fact, you are already changing it. Little by little, you’re going to scratch through that untapped potential to become the next best thing since sliced bread. Although you aren’t where you want to be right now, you’re still on track. Your past doesn’t matter. All that matters is the present. I’ll be there every step of the way and we’ll show everyone who you are becoming and who I am… The Happier You.