Visionaries in Asia:
Hope everyone has had a great month! LSA has been busy teaching high school summer programs (160+ students). It has been amazing to watch the students and see them change. One of the greatest obstacles we have found that prevents people from changing, is not just, not knowing what to do, but thinking that you know when you really don’t.
If you don’t know what to do, it is easy to realize you must ask for help. The issue comes when you think you know what to do. If you think you know, then you won’t ask for help. This becomes a problem to improving. When we are younger, we often think that we know, when we really don’t.
Some of the ways we see this in life is as follows:
1. We think we are good at doing something, when in actuality we are not.
2. People tell us that we have certain characteristics, but we “think” that we do not.
3. We think that a parent or friend gets on us all the time about something, but they really do not.
4. We think we know the way and know what to do, but we really do not.
In our summer programs we taught students ways in which they can quickly figure out when they don’t know. The first thing we do is take the extremes to understand the difference between when people know and when they don’t know.
It is interesting to find that when you know, things are simple, you can see into the future, and most of all you become less stressed and worried. This is important to realize, because this means that stress and worry in and of itself is an indicator that you don’t know what is happening. You will only stress and worry, when you don’t see the future, when you are going about something the inefficient way.
There are also other ways you can quickly figure out if you think you know, but you don’t:
1. Measure – If you think something happens a lot or not a lot, if you think someone is doing something, to find out if you are perceiving things accurately, then mark each time it happens, and you will quickly figure out if your perception is right.
2. Ask people – If someone tells you something and you think it is not accurate, then ask other people. If one person says it they could be wrong, but if 5 people, 10 people, say the same thing, then it is most accurately correct.
3. Observe yourself – See the characteristics under the “Don’t Know” in the figure above. The more you talk, less you learn, more things catch you by surprise, etc. the more it tells you that you might not really know what is happening.
It is really easy in life to believe that stress and worry is a part of it, but there is a way to live a stress free life. It comes from realizing when you don’t know. When you know when you don’t know, it will allow you to make the change that will help you increase your efficiency and peace in your life.
-Dr. Jacob S. Kashiwagi, July 2018